I’m 18 and my parents just got divorced and my dad is stalking me with a GPS system…how can i stop him?
my rents are going through a messy divorce…and im currently living with my father…even though it is a living hell…i’m 18 and just graduated from high school and i’m a good kid…i don’t go go out and drink or do drugs…but i am given freedom at all…for the summer i am driving my dads car as long as i buy gas…but he continues to call me a minumum of 15 times a day to ask where i am and what im doing even though i tell him where and when i go some where…i did tell him i was going shopping a few towns over when i actually left the state to go to my boyfriends house…he called and said i needed to come back in state and return the car beacause he had reported the car stolen in the town my boyfriend lives in…so he must a a gps tracking device on the car or phone…my boyfriend looked under tho hood and couldn;t find it…how do i find it and stop him…also he calls my friends and theier parents and grandapertns looking for me all the time at like 3 in the am can i stop him
in two months when i do leave for college, which i might add i am paying for myself, since my parents aren’t giving me a dime, i will be living completely on my own. i also have had two jobs since the age of fourteen…i do come home at a reasonable time…11 pm…and i do give him one check in call a night…but if i do move out and get my own cell phone plan and live at my bosses for the summer he can’t continue to harass me or track me with a gps device?
and the only thing my father is doing to support me is let me drive the car…i pay the phone bill, and my insurcance, the gas, my college education, he no longer buys food for the house, i buy all my own clothing, and i’m not some idiot teenager i know how hard it is making it on your own in the real world…there are so many things you need to account for when you budget your lifestyle.
about 1 year ago
Don’t accept things from him. Don’t drive his car, don’t let him pay for anything. Be independent, if you don’t want him to do this.
about 1 year ago
It is your dad’s car. You live in his house. He supports you. He has rules. You have to obey them. He has all the rights to set the standards for his household. If he wants to “stalk” you while you drive his car, he can do that.
If you do not like it, (you are an adult), move out, get a job, and support yourself.
about 1 year ago
1. Get your own phone account.
2. Is the car registered to him? If so, that gives him a lot of control.
3. Call the police. If he actually reported the car stolen (which it was not) that is called filing a false police report. Which is highly illegal. I suspect he is bluffing. Call the police and tell them it is not stolen, you are his daughter and you were granted use of the car. The police will have a thing or two to say to him which should cool his jets.
4. You are 18. You are an adult. Don’t answer the phone.
Living in someone’s house DOES NOT mean you have to account to them for your movements. Period. The whole “My house My rules” crap is just that. Crap. There is no law against living your own life and your father will have to get over this fact.
5. MOVE OUT! This is the surest way to freedom. And you need NO ONE’S permission to do so!
Good luck!
about 1 year ago
give him the car back and that letshim know what he doing isent right or just talk to him or try to move in with your mother
about 1 year ago
You can get a job, get your own apartment and get your own car. As long as you wish to be an adult and still be supported by your parent, that parent can impose whatever conditions they wish and if you find them intolerable, you have the option of moving out and refusing his help.
about 1 year ago
As long as you are living in your father’s house, driving your father’s car, eating the food your father provides and generally being supported by your father, you abide by his rules. Why is he calling so many people looking for you at 3 am? Because you are not home where you belong or where you said you would be!
Do not lie to him! He is your father and respect him enough to tell the truth.
When you have a job that pays enough for you to get your own apartment, your own car & car insurance, your own school expenses, your own food, and medical insurance, and utilities, and phone, and everything else you need, you can lead an independent life. As long as you are a dependent, you are still a child. You certainly are acting like one. So knock it off and grow up. Act like a mature adult if you want to be considered one.
about 1 year ago
How about you get a job, pay for your own gas, return home at a decent hour, and quit lying to your dad. In essense- grow up. Being 18 does not make you an adult, behaving maturely and responsibly does.
about 1 year ago
“i’m 18 and just graduated from high school and i’m a good kid”
“i did tell him i was going shopping a few towns over when i actually left the state to go to my boyfriends house.”
“my boyfriend looked under tho hood and couldn;t find it (GPS) …how do i find it and stop him.”
A) seems your actions don’t match your story.
B) and if you boyfriend had found your dad’s GPS in you dad’s car, what were you and/or your boyfriend going to do with it?
“also he calls my friends and theier parents and grandapertns looking for me all the time at like 3 in the am”
you’re not home?
i mean, you can move out.
get a job, pay for your own food, car, and apartment.
as long as he’s paying, he gets to make the rules.
one would think that by 18, you’d have learned that.
obviously not.
seems you still need to have limits set.
aw, what do you mean you’re not going to give me a “best answer”?
truth hurts, it would seem.
about 1 year ago
I say move out your 18 leave the house you ARE a adult like someone said in a earlier post NO ONE says you “can’t move out” when your 18 if you let him control you like that it will go on for many years! And it won’t be a very happy life.
I mean that’s what I’m going to do when I’m 18 I’m not a little kid anymore at that age. And I WONT be living home till I’m 40! Live your own life like I’ll plan to do in the future! I wish you luck tell your dad straight out to knock it off!